Embodied pleasures
Close your eyes. Let your hands do the talking. Offer up the control of your mind to your body, feel your way across my skin. Listen, through your body, to the ways my body in turn, responds. Doesn’t it feel sublime? How in this moment, there is no future, no past - only present.
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I have learnt many lessons about the nature of human sensuality, being Letizia for several years. One; that generosity, an open mind and the right lingerie set from a generous lover can turn me into a goddess worthy of worship. Two; always expect the unexpected, and three; that bodily passion is a crucial part of being human. The more my desires grow and evolve with my sexual and sensual exploration, the more I return to one crucial element that I feel underpins everything I love about pleasure as politics; that is, embodiment.
That is, we must ask: imagine what it would feel like, to be fully, erotically, present in your body?
The clients I see as an independent escort and elite kinkster are as diverse as my kink tastes; some suitors are single, some married, some divorced. Others are kinksters themselves, experts in their desires; others are tentatively looking for that special someone to help them open the door to sexual release and pleasure. To escape their own reality. Some of my lovers I have never met in real life before, cultivating sensual erotic connections online. Others are firmly situated in my calendar; we meet once a fortnight, or monthly, and enjoy each other’s company as long-term lovers and friends.
Amongst this beautiful and breathtaking diversity, I have come to find one certainty: we are all craving a type of re-embodiment, that comes with sexual play.
Daily life pulls us away from our bodies, it pulls us away from being truly connected to our inner selves. Routine, work, technology, responsibilities, take us away from hearing what our bodies could teach us. How long has it been since you’ve taken a deep, mindful, intentional breath? Watched your chest and stomach expand with air, felt it compress and empty? Embodiment is so crucial to our wellbeing, and a huge part of that relates to our sexualities. It takes a conscious effort to consider our physical selves, to love and honour them, to enjoy them and to feel the minutiae of sensations available to us, if only we found time to reconnect.
Our bodies and our corporeal natures are so often relegated to the side lines, repressed and ignored in case they interrupt our daily routines. Then, the COVID-19 pandemic struck, and we were thrown into a whirlwind, the likes of which many of us had never seen before…
The collective consciousness has gone through a lot during this pandemic. We have been living in a fear state, where the mingling of bodies has proven fatal for so many. Of course, it has been our moral duty to take precautions wherever we have been able to, pausing and withholding our worlds until the coast seems clear. But an undue consequence of this, I have seen, is that I feel that we are all in a state of skin hunger, desperate to be touched, to feel cherished and wanted and desired.
Cultivating the time and investment into experiencing the life changing power of embodiment is well worth it.
Something that has always defined Letizia is the inter-dynamics of politics and pleasure. It is a political, radical act to seek out pleasure whenever we can - a sort of ‘activism of pleasure’, if you will. BDSM, in particular, had the power to make us feel completely in our bodies, something I often talk about. A dash of pain grounds me totally in the moment; my mind becomes clear, still, while my body feels more awake and alive than it ever has. To be able to focus on an all-encompassing intensity such as I find with a careful, considerate Dominant, is breathtaking.
Alongside being one of London’s and Europe’s most elite independent escorts, offering in-person GFE and kinky escapes, I have recently begun my official training as a sex therapist. So much of my experience as a kinky companion has been implicitly therapeutic in nature - think of a glammed up therapist, of course, but I am truly revelling in learning the art of explicit sex therapy. With this, embodiment takes centre stage, learning to support my wonderful clients with the healing, nurturing and sensual act of sexual self-care that they so deserve.
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Embodiment of pleasure, sensuality.
The body as a vessel of lush solitude.
Dancing alone, in my room.
Which is to say,
When the revolution feels like coming home.
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