Your Kinky Companion
“I felt like an animal, and animals don’t know sin, do they?”
— Jess C. Scott, Wicked Lovely
Kinkster. Intellectualist. Pervert.
I remember my first time at a play party; you could smell the desire, emanating off of people’s bodies in a secluded basement, hidden away in London’s historic streets. Aural pleasures filled the air - I heard the thwacks of a paddle, the whoosh of a cane as it sliced through the atmosphere to find its punitive place on a willingly subjugated derrière. People were laughing, smiling, moaning, pleading. It was a sensorialist’s dream, and to say I was eager to join them is an understatement...
I have been part of the BDSM/kink community in both London and Barcelona for over a decade. Immersing myself in the intellectual-cum-kinky bourgeoise set has brought me many awesome intellectual opportunities, the ability to meet some astounding adventurous humans, and the loving feeling of a supportive and magnificent kink community. Whether you’re a complete newbie or total novice, I’m keen to see how we dance together.
“The need to go astray, to be destroyed, is an extremely private, distant, passionate, turbulent truth.”
― Georges Bataille
I would very much define myself as a kinkster; a true independent, elite switch. The type of woman who wants to journey across the entire dominance-submission spectrum. To encounter and taste every experience this demimonde has to offer. I have a penchant for roleplays, and long-standing dynamics that keep the flame of desire burning long after we’ve met.
Part of the joy of being a kinky switch is that my desires ebb and flow depending on the existential moment I am in. They vary according to the interpersonal dynamic between us, and how I feel in the moment. Below you’ll discover more about my particular submission and dominance styles, but I’m always looking to push my erotic education.
Tell me - are you a fetishist? Which are the fantasies that keep you awake at night, the ones that steer your whole mode of life? I have a rich imagination, and consider each one of my kinky encounters to be an immersive artistic experience.
Submission.
Here comes my penchant for chiaroscuro; the interplay between light and darkness, produced in sharp contrasts. Chiaroscuro, for me, translates into a versatile approach to kink. Whether I feel like a top or a bottom comes in undulating waves.
What I can say with certainty is that for me to be in a submissive state of mind, I need my play partner to be a thoughtful and deliberate person. This starts with the deep understanding of the holy trinity of BDSM practises: SSC (Safe, Sane Consensual).
Domination.
The answers to my questions concerning all things desire come back to one idea: sensual domination.
To me, sexual domination means subtly using power dynamics to play with the senses rather than using aggression or intense pain. Finding out about those triggers that might bring someone to surrender, by a slow burn of sensual submission.
I relish in impact play, rope and strap-on play. Having been formally trained by an elite London BDSM practice school, I love a slow build-up. This is domination, with an artistic passionate flair.
BDSM’s Holy Trinity
SSC (Safe, Sane Consensual).
BDSM practice and play centres around three tenets; that each scene be Safe, Sane, and Consensual. It is imperative to me that any connection we foster is done so in an environment in which we both feel comfortable, safe, and where trust and integrity are paramount.
Safe
Both physically and emotionally. It is important for me that my domme is cognisant that when I reach my subspace, I might become less verbal. Lack of verbal communication on my part doesn’t mean that I don’t still need to feel that my wellbeing is being monitored. Part of this process is that the pre-agreed boundaries are being respected. Safety for my submissives means that I, as your domme, will be constantly monitoring for any signs that our play is making you uncomfortable (in a non-consensual way). Negotiation before our scene and during, as well as paying close attention to your aftercare needs, will protect your safety.
Sane
This aspect of SSC concerns fantasy versus reality. For example one of the common mistakes I have encountered is the belief that because I’m a sub during particular play scenes, I might also be so in real life. This is not the case - both parties must be clear about when the play scene starts and when it ends. In a dominant role, I have my limits, too. Anything I feel uncomfortable about, I will not engage in.
Consensual
No means no. Full stop.
I use the trafflic light system during all kinky play. Red means stop, immediately without question. Amber means pay attention, I’m reaching my limit. Green means keep going, this is mindblowing.
RATES.
My rates start as requested below which may vary depending on the nature of the date. For my sensuality coaching offering, you can find my rates here.
90 minutes: £500
Two hours: £600
Extra hour: £150
Dinner or lunch date (up to 4 hours): £850
Overnight (up to 16 hours): 1800£